Even if you think you've tried & tried & it's no use, I'm chiming in as #3 to say make an effort/another effort/a greater effort at connecting with your mom. As Perna said, moms don't always get it right either.

When I got older & my mom & I became friends, we were both amazed looking back in our "I thought you thought... ""No, no, I thought YOU thought... " conversations. Most of the time we both got it wrong. At least we talked later, but then would have been unbelievable! Give it a try.