Not at all; life is life and we don't have problems if they aren't problems You have a lot on your plate and that is what you presented! I was only agreeing with you that it was a lot and very difficult and all over the place, etc.

When I have too much to deal with, I first try to get rid of some. If it costs more than one can get in return, I drop it, no matter how I might like to do it or wish I could fit it in, etc. If it is going to harm me more than be good for me, literally or my mental health and mood, etc. then I ditch it. Trying to struggle with too much is an unhealthy decision, something has to give and I'd rather it was the problem I feel is mine (if I can't solve it, I should not claim it) than me.

If the car scenario went as badly as you say, I would drop the whole thing, give up the car and move on, the bad guys could have it since they want it so much. Without a car I would not have to pay car insurance or buy gas (or make other repairs), I could use that money to pay for alternate transportation or save some of it until I could buy another car. If car owning is such a hassle for me, even if it isn't my fault it happened that way, then I don't want that hassle more than I want a car.

I can't do anything about how others act, don't want to be concerned about what they do or why they do it because I have enough trouble with myself. If I were to lose my house to the bank because of this economy, it would be about the house and me and finding myself shelter, not about how the bank or economy did me wrong; I do not want to fight them, they are bigger than I am and it will hurt me to fight them more than it will make my situation better. They are not in charge of me knowing who I am! If I say I am honest and hard working, that's what I am since I am the only me there is so I get to be in charge of deciding who I am.