Thank you, Sunnysky. I am trying my best to take care of myself. That is one lesson I learned in dealing with all this... I think the idea of moving the money is a good one. I am at a disadvantage here because up until now he has "controlled" the money (i.e. I stay at home, he works, he manages the accounts, etc.) It's clear that it is time for me to take more responsibility in that arena. Best wishes to you as well.

Prince Charming...when I said "drug of choice" I was using the phrase as it is commonly understood in the drug/alcohol counseling community to mean that is his first choice when he uses. It doesn't mean he has a choice vis-a-vis a conscious decision to weigh the benefits and consequences of his using and then decide to use. That being said, I 100%, completely agree with you in that the root of his addiction has not been properly addressed and that he is probably in the midst of relapse thinking.

Thank you to everyone for your positive comments and suggestions. This is NOT how I wanted to go into the holidays...but all I can do at this point is choose how I react to the situation. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I will keep you updated.