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Originally Posted by Claritytoo
Thanks for the response but I guess what I really want to know is how do I stop deleting and throwing them away? I write something one day and I read it another day and don't like what I wrote or how it makes me feel so I throw the journal away.
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any habit / mannerism that has been taught or learned as a coping tool to hide what is going on inside (or for any other reason) can be untaught / unlearned / given up / gotten rid of/ .....
It takes determination, perseverance and constant diligence to the negative behavior and the constant application of the positive behavior. Sometime people when retraining their self (getting rid of a negative behavior and replacing it with a positive behavior) give their self rewards.
example one of my alters was an avid smoker. once I was integrated I had smoking cravings because that alter was now one with me. I retrained myself by setting my goal and attitude for the task at hand. then I chose a positive behavior to replace the negative - I would take 5 minutes to breath, relax and totally enjoy a stick of strong flavored gum, or hard strong flavored candy. then I rewarded myself for following through with my goal of replacing smoking with gum or hard candy, my reward f- for every 5 consecutive times I followed through my wife had to do the dishes (I hate washing dishes and she was very willing to help me get rid of the "cancer sticks")
I was smoke free in two weeks.
if you want to stop deleting / getting rid of.. the evidence of journal writing it will take time but you can do it. just find what works for you and then off you go..