Well, now, I dont know what's going on with me but I think you ought to skip the personal questions to him and simply cut to the chase:

"After what happened between *Client 1* and me on Friday ...."

It sounds as if you want to know what you mean to him, etc, & are bringing along this fairly complicated story as a cover--although you'd like to discuss that with him too. Why not just ask straight out about the kids & your job? Why the appearance of asking your T personal questions that might make him think you're asking for different reasons?