Hypersexuality is just a heightened sex drive, without any "editorial comment" as to enjoyment. It's like an alcoholic having to have that drug--he'll get it from mouthwash or shaving lotion if that's all that's available, but he doesn't have to like drinking it!
But from your description of what you're driven to, I'm not so sure it's hypersexuality you're dealing with. Two one-night-stands is nothing--try a dozen or more. Further, you knew everyone you had sex with. Again, hardly a requirement where hypersexuality is involved. You may have been into some risky or inappropriate relations, but there might have been other motives (unconscious maybe) for those.
Three affairs at the same time also may reflect just risky behavior rather than hypersexuality. Other possibilities there too.
Hormones can drive us to the sexual act, and there doesn't have to be much thought involved. Cats in the alley, scratch the itch--lots of very unromantic ways to describe it. But enjoyment certainly isn't required. Enjoyment is a human judgment or value we assign, but the sex drive itself exists at the biological level.
Now if you don't enjoy sex, that's something to explore in therapy. I have a fairly low sex drive & am seldom an initiator, but I respond big time with the right person. I didn't enjoy sex much at all, tho, at your age. I wish I had had the sense to do something about that back then. I think it would have changed my relationships enormously for the better--& my life correspondingly--had I figured out why I was that way. I worked on it later, but that was so much harder & less successful.
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