I completely agree. I actually grew up around many, many wonderful fathers in my life. Yes, I ran into one who wasn't (not my own), but literally every other man I came into contact with was a wonderful husband and father: my father, my grandfathers, my uncles, my best friend's father, her grandfather, many admirable men in my church who were like family to me, the father's of family friends, etc., etc. I grew up knowing what a good husband and father looked like, and I definitely applied that standard in choosing my own husband who isn't perfect, but no one would argue that he isn't a fantastic father to our boys.

But I think it can work the other way too. My husband had a horrible mother (and father), and he managed to find someone who is completely opposite of his upbringing (and he is completely opposite of his parents). It is like he was searching for the antithesis of his family experience. And he has become completely different from his family. He is a loving, sensitive husband and an involved, supportive dad. He's not perfect. Clearly his upbringing has left scars, but his faults are mostly in his thinking, not his reality.