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I think that it is ok to vent from time to time....In fact, I think it is normal...However, I would have an issue with my SO giving personal information about me or our relationship...Especially if he isn't coming to me about these issues...Instead of running to your friends every time something doesn't go your way, communicate with me what is going on or what I'm doing wrong...I don't think that one should get in the habit of constantly venting or complaining about a spouse...Because as Justme said, people can form their opinions about you based on what he says....They are getting only one side of the story... And also because it shows lack of communication and it can damage the trust...
Justme hit it right on the head....I have gone through something similar...My SO doesn't vent or complain to his friends or family about me....However, all in the name of "Keeping it real" ***insert eye roll to the high heavens*** he has told them some things that I said or did...Well in the process of "keeping it real" folks start to make their own assumptions of you...All of this then can spiral out of control and end up having people all in your business when in all reality, they have no idea what is going on in your relationship...Opinons form and before you know it, this come can in between you and him...People have their opinions of me....And those opinions have been formed over the 8 years we've been together...And there are some people that I'm not comfortable being around...Because of things that they know of or because I feel a certain way because I'm the ****** or mean one...
Again, it's OK to vent to certain friends, but you don't need to divulge personal or certain information...Outside people should not know the specifics of your relationship...That is between you and your SO....
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