I guess I took your "thanks everyone" as a goodbye, and the rest of that post as a message that you were choosing to continue to engage in this enterprise. "Moving past caring" - per my T, Sartre may have been a great philosopher, but he was a lousy husband. Or maybe just my T is, and this boyfriend of yours. Thing is, he's not achieving the high standard he's attempting to hold you to. You do deserve better. If deserve is not in your vocabulary (it wasn't in mine), then work on that, THEN go lookin' for love. So - what was your question exactly??