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Originally Posted by hankster
I guess I took your "thanks everyone" as a goodbye, and the rest of that post as a message that you were choosing to continue to engage in this enterprise. "Moving past caring" - per my T, Sartre may have been a great philosopher, but he was a lousy husband. Or maybe just my T is, and this boyfriend of yours. Thing is, he's not achieving the high standard he's attempting to hold you to. You do deserve better. If deserve is not in your vocabulary (it wasn't in mine), then work on that, THEN go lookin' for love. So - what was your question exactly??
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I'm not sure what my question was but thanks for the feedback! Enterprise... that's a good word to describe it. I don't know if I can move past caring, but I'm going to try. The more he shows how clueless and self-centered he can be, the easier it is to let go. If I cut off contact, I would idealize him and forget how he can be. Also, there is something emotionally charged about no contact. There is so much meaning in the silence, but there's nothing like a few lame exchanges to fan the flames and bring me back to reality. That's just how my brain works. I can't say I'll be the picture of calm and collected the first time he brings up another woman (we used to talk about dating other people before the sex). Time will tell.