Oh dear BIG topic forgiveness..... on my table as we speak. Hurts hurt and we flinch. Get defensive. Want to strike back. But, if we can train ourselves to 1) stop 2) drop and 3) roll, as it were, ie: 1) acknowlege the affront, 2) recognize it's "not ours" and let go of it, 3) regrease our feathers with self talk so the crud rolls off like water off a ducks back.

Then come here or call a friend to blow off steam and process.
PS The better I get at forgiving myself, the better I get at forgiving others.......