I really empathize with this as my boyfriend smokes (regular marijuana) to unwind at the end of almost every night. It may be just few puffs off a joint but, honestly, I hate it. I think he may have some undiagnosed ADD issues and this seems to be the only thing to calm him when he's particularly anxious. Sometimes he has trouble sleeping due to anxiety. When he doesn't smoke for long stretches, he's pretty moody and irritable. I don't want to be judgmental, since I've never even tried it, but I just deal with my stress differently (taking a walk, yoga, just bearing through it and hopping on the computer if I can't sleep) and think of this as a bit of a weakness. Usually, I just let it go since it's a few puffs at night but, recently, he's actually gone out in public after having smoked (never done this before; just likes it at home) so it seems to be ramping up. When he smokes more than just a few puffs, I feel as if I'm speaking with a 15 year old and I detest this...it makes me really annoyed and I lose just a little bit of respect for him each time and feel VERY guilty about that. He's a gentle person who never judges other people but, for some reason, I can't let this go and just accept this is part of who he is right now.