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Originally Posted by PurpleFlyingMonkeys
It's not you either, try to remember that. Don't put blame anywhere. Blaming yourself, blaming the child, blaming anyone does no good. Just try to find a way to heal the relationship so everyone can heal. Everyone needs to change and mold to eachother in a family. I'm a new mom of a 3 year old with many of the same problems as you. When my little girl acted out at first I blamed it on her visit with her father. Then I blamed it on myself. Then I realized really it's everything. My lack of patience, my lack of childhood know how, his lack of being around her.... We are a product of our environment not a product of eachother. Give your son a break, but give yourself a break to. It's hard it really is!
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thank you so much for understanding. You really have put it in perspective. I've blamed his visit with my mother-in-law, myself, my parents, Gabriel himself. I've gotta stop blaming because you are right- it is everything. The new baby taking my attention, the fact both me and my husband have instabilities, the holiday stress. I wanna make this all right so that we can celebrate Christmas this year without misery.