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Here are the facts:
1) He flat out told you he didn't want you in the beginning of your friendship/relationship because he met someone else in his hometown and wanted to be with her.
2) You ignored all of that and instead said you wanted to be in his life no matter what...Without me even reading the rest of your post, at this point i said, DING DING DING DING DING...Mistake number one....
3) Dude had a girlfriend AND slept with you? Dude is a winner...***sarcasm***...Right there that showed you that he cannot be faithful...Yet you ignored yet another sign...
In summary, in the beginning of your relationship, you decided to be with him regardless of him telling you he didn't want to be with you because he wanted to be with someone else...That was mistake number one...You were opening up yourself to be hurt and strung along...Which, is what ended up happening...You slept with a guy that you knew had a girlfriend/was messing around with someone else...And not only that, you continued contact with this guy even after knowing that he was with someone else..That shows him that you are willing to be with him no matter what he does...I'll leave the whole cheating thing alone...I could go on and on but sometimes me being bluntly honest, especially on here, is a no no
Let's take a good look at this guy...You are getting caught up in all the good times and the fact that you want so badly to be with him...He has already shown you that he is not the commitment type...Repeatedly sending inappropriate texts to other females is unacceptable...The way he is treating you, in my opinion, is unacceptable...I don't care if this man today says he wants to marry you...Unless he does a complete 180, I'm not buying it...This isn't hard to figure out but your emotions, the way you feel about him, is clouding your judgement...From someone on the outside looking in, there are so many red flags....Why would you want to be with someone that treats you this way? He keeps showing you that he cannot be committed...Why are you trying to hold on? You only know what you find in his phone...You have no idea what else he has been doing....You're putting yourself through too much...All this sneaking in his phone and checking up on him is going to drive you insane...Every time he leaves the house you will be wondering what he is doing and who with...Every time his phone rings or he gets a text you will be wondering what is going on...Don't put yourself through that..Once the trust is gone, there is nothing left...Do not get involved with someone who is already involved...You are asking for nothing but drama...And it's disrespectful to the other woman...
Leave him alone...Like I said, you should have listened to him in the beginning...Now you are deeper in the relationship which makes it harder to get out because your emotions are involved...It's too late for woulda shoulda couldas...If you stay with him, I can guarantee you what is going on won't stop...Look out for yourself and your best interest...You don't have family or friends that may be able to help, but I'm telling you that same thing I would tell a friend or relative...You're wasting time on this man...Move, get yourself together, cut off contact with him, and move on...
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