Hi Patricia,

I'm a teenager, and even I think your daughters behaviour and choice to do that was a bad one!

The way you explain her behaviour, she sounds exactly like my sister! Teenagers are SUPPOSED to be embarassed by their parents, its a fact of life. I've been embarassed, and even though I wasn't happy because of it, I wasn't scarred emotionally either.

If you really don't want to get into a confrontation with her, is there any way you can prevent this sort of thing from happening again? Pick a time where you're both calm and tell her that you'd appreciate it if she informed you of any such happenings before they occur again. If she refuses to listen to that, some sort of punishment can work at times. If she's got it, take away her phone or driving priveleges, time out with her friends... anything so she learns that YOU are the boss.

Teenagers! *grumble* (I'm allowed to do that, I'm 3 months away from no longer being one. )