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Originally Posted by CantExplain
I think this is unduly pessimistic.
Firstly, a homophobic society is generally in denial. They'd prefer to believe homosexuality doesn't exist. They generally don't make trouble for people who aren't making trouble for them (as they see it).
Secondly, every culture gives a certain licence to writers, painters and actors. Such people are allowed to be different, so long as they are not too provocative.
I won't advise you one way or another. But if you cultivate the image of an eccentric artist and avoid sex altogether, you should live a safe and uneventful life. If you don't have a lover, neither scandal nor the law has anything to work with, and the rumours will die away.
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I have to respectfully but strongly disagree with this advice. The Truth: A homophobic society is prejudiced and will discriminate. People will be out to get you for being homosexual. A perfect example was the Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy which turned out to be a witch hunt even though it was intended to make military duty safe for gays and lesbians.
Every culture does NOT give a certain license to writers, painters and actors. Witness those who have been censored or jailed in order to keep their writings suppressed.
Gee, what a nice life. Pretend to be eccentric so you can lead a loveless and lonely celibate, but supposedly safe(!), life - that's right, pretend to be Salvador Dali (who was also married but never touched his wife who, btw, slept around to meet her love needs). Like I said, homophobic people do not discriminate between celibate or sexually active homosexuals. Rather, they see all homosexuals as fodder for abuse, discrimination and alienation.
Please do not choose to live a lonely and loveless life. Move away to a place where you can safely lead a full life. A place where how you live is your own business and no one else's. So far away that your family and others in your community will not know what is going on. Your family will understand.