I need your help here. You don't know me but maybe that will enable you to give me a more 'objective" point of view. I am really wondering what's wrong with me.
The story is complicated, I admit, so bear with me.
I was interested in a guy who had a girlfriend. After a while I realized that he had no honest intentions towards me so I let it be.
I was then interested in his friend, who I thought was more responsible, but it turned out that he was a womanizer and he was very clever at giving very ambiguous answers so that he made me believe that he cared for me. In the end I was the fool misunderstanding everything.
Finallly I met another friend of the group (it is a small place), but he was warned against me. The two other friends, probably pissed of that I wasn't accepting their behavior, told him that I was asking a lot of questions about them (actually I asked very normal questions, nothing special, but I felt I had to defend my reputation so I wanted to put a few things right). So now I have the reputation of being a nosy person (!) and this guy who seemed interested at first won't even talk to me anymore.
He is being very rude to me as are all the people in the group, some of which had no trouble hitting on me not so long ago.
I feel like nobody is caring about me and they are very quick in judging me. The hostility they display is really hurting me. I may have been a bit intrusive due to my insecurities and ambiguous information I was given but is this a reason to treat me like that ? Every kind gesture is now understood as a pushy way to impose myself on others.
Are they right ? Am I inconsistant ? Or are they hypocrites ? Other people have no trouble with my behavior.
I don't understand how people who seemed to like me one day barely greet me a week later ! How can people be so easily influenced by other people's opinion ?
Tonight I was being told I was paranoïd because of a joke I made about a guy "hitting" on my sister who's married. The guy told me I should stop talking about other people in their back but I didn't say anything bad!!!!
A lot of people from the same group distance themselves from me and I am wondering if they may be right. I feel terrible and I don't know what to think anymore. My sister says they are jerks but she is my sister.
Am I needy, nosy or whatever ? Or are they just a group of jerks with different values ? As soon as I voice my concerns I am a "bore", ruining their evening.
Whatever I do I seem to get it all wrong. It would be easy to say all these people are a bunch of idiots and not think about it anymore. On the other hand I tend to feel guilty about everything so it is really hard to know what to think.
I feel really lost.