Can someone give me advice please... My boyfriend has adhd so bad (and refuses meds) that he can't even remember simple tasks... I have bipolar disorder and anxiety so im as patient as I can be but I'm so frustrated with him as a dad, and as a person because hes way old enough to remember to... Lets say shut off a light, or change a diaper, or heck, even give me the money to pay a bill when I remind him 10 times its due... Getting ANNOYED!! I love him, but I need advice!!

And my 2yr old seems to display similar symptoms. I keep wanting to take him to get checked... But my boyfriends afraid hell have to be on meds. Can I choose not to, and learn new methods?? And if so what are some?