Ha! Yes, Hankster, it's very helpful to know a bit of background on the poster. My fault as I'm new to the site and have not yet filled out my profile. I didn't want to put too many details in the discussion but the devil is truly in the details and really does help for full understanding. I'm actually the older one in the relationship at 43 (he's 37) and neither of us is particularly naive (or young).

Your comments were not too harsh though...it's actually something I've thought about since we do have different approaches to things that can point toward trouble down the road. But, I may actually just have some insecurites that are not well-founded based on stuff from my past. So, my perspective on what is "reasonable" is a bit skewed. Since this is a more "mature" relationship (nope, we're not kids by any stretch of the imagination), it may just be that I'm a little too dependent/needy. But, then again, I don't want to sacrifice my future happiness if he could make a few more compromises.

In either case, working on myself would not do any harm at all. It will either help this relationship or the next one that I may find myself in.

Perna, your comments are well taken. To clarify a bit, my boyfriend and his business partner are not out partying during this time. I do see him every day (we meet for cofree, a bite to eat or even to a show)...but the time has just been limited and lacking a bit of intimacy. He is very tired out by the visit...there are some very serious issues with the business right now that they are both working on fixing and, culturally, he's a bit worried about offending the partner as he's the older one in the friendship. As an American, that doesn't make sense to me, but it is a very strong part of their culture. My boyfriend's brother never even calls him only by his first name...there is a word in their language that they use in front of the name to signal respect for someone older. That being said, I'm worred as well that he is subconciously using me...but he is also a very single focus kind of guy...and I don't know if concerns for keeping the business afloat are driving much of this behavior or it's something different. So, I don't think he's rolling me up like a rug to party but he is defnitely rolling me up to try and deal with some pretty serious issues. He has told me that they've discussed bankruptcy, so I do consider that different than a bachelor party. Hopefully, I'm just not desperately trying to make excuses. I'm trying to see his perspective but also try and deal with feeling lonely and concerned about the future of the relationship.

You sound as if you have a wonderful relationship with your husband and it definitely sounds as if the mutual respect you have for each other should be a goal in any relationship.