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Old Apr 28, 2006, 11:14 PM
Anonymous29319
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Know the feeling. On the one side the therapist is supposed to know more about the cleits than the clients know about the therapist. That way the client doesn't focus on what is going on with the therapist and not use therapists personal life as a way to avoid their own problems but yet on the other side the client is expected to "spill their everything" while not knowing a thing about the therapist. Doesn't quite sound fair sometimes.

I have figured out that finding things out about the therapist is actually easy. It takes timing, the way the question or information getting statement is worded and alot of using the same skills that therapists use - paying attention to everything the five senses are telling me - body language, tone of voice, facial expressions and so on. And worse case scenerio theres the world wide web.

Most of my therapists have been very private type people including my present one. but yet I have been able to find out things that even my present therapist did not expect me to locate such as private unlisted home and cell numbers and addresses, Social activities not involving the therapy agency, serving on the city councils, participating in walkathons, teaching certain types of classes you would not expect a therapist to teach.

LL has learned that if she does not want me to open my "Dectective Skills" as she calls my ability to locate a friend after 25 years of no contact and digging up information about her that she does not normally discuss with clients, to find out why she isn't answering my questions and to locate the answers on my own its best to give me a better answer than - the famous "we are here to talk about you and I don't talk about my private life with clients" type answers therapists are known to give. So she usually answers my questions about herself as long as it pertains to what we are talking about in what I am doing in therapy or on my own for my own therapy projects.