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Originally Posted by Squiggle328
Do you ever get mad at your therapist for no real reason? Right now, I am really mad at my therapist. It's not that she has done anything, but I am really angry with her. Maybe it is because I 'think' she has this perfect life? I picture her having this lovely home, lovely family, and wonderful Christmas with all the 'bells and whistles'.
She had her daughters at the office the other day. I rarely ever see them, but I actually talked with them this time. They are very sweet and I am sure they are the joy of my therapist's life. I am glad that she is blessed in that way.
So why am I upset with her? That is what I can't answer. She has been nothing but good to me. She even sent me an email today to remind me that I can email her as much as I need to over the holiday break. You see what I mean? She can't be that nice of a person all the time. She must have some flaw somewhere!
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This is transference, pure and simple. You are really angry with someone else, but it is "safer" to be angry with T, because T won't hurt you.
In my case, I got angrier and angrier over the weeks until I had a real outburst. But it was
old anger and there was no other way to dump it.
It was unpleasant for both of us, but T says that in the long term, it made our relationship stronger. I realised (subconsciously at first) that I was
allowed to be angry at T, and that made it easier to speak freely.