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Hi,
I appreciated reading your reply very much. My T seemed to just string me along; I'm getting a new one. I liked what you wrote that your T encourages you to respect your own thoughts and emotions. I'm sorry for what you went through. In my case, it was a long time ago, too, but really all 4 siblings have been emotionally and verbally abusive. I reflected on one sister's personality yesterday; and think it's the old "manipulation and control" act. Some have to control because they are empty or not free inside, just my perspective. When they can honestly dialogue with me and accept my perspective as valid for me, then I might connect in the future. Thanks for reading my post. I wanted to add I'm learning to assert my own boundaries now. How wonderful you have two young children!!!

Taking care of ourselves should never bring guilt or accusations of selfishness...I'm learning to do just that.....we have to love ourselves. I think women especially are taught they just have to care for others...that's their role or nature....we've come a long, long, way. I'm learning to guilt=free care for myself and become a happier person for it.

I hope you find a good T; and taking the baby with you is a good idea. When my older girl was in nursery school, I did things for myself...lunch or a gallery, shopping; sometimes left the baby home with a sitter; but it isn't a good idea, in retrospect. Don't trust anyone with your children unless you get references. that's just said from experience.

all the best on your journey,