I concur with not ruminating. I have looked for relief in many ways. But I got the farthest by living in the moment and using my experiences to help myself through other stuff, and give others ideas on how to handle things. It doesn't mean bad things never happened, it just means I don't want that running my life. I acknowledge that I have had a TON of stuff happen to me, but that doesn't mean I have to look for more trouble, or constantly think about all that stuff. It's all a tool for me. I take a tool out when I need it, and then put it away. Sure I have hard times. But I don't want them to stick around any longer than needed. I have had to hunt for hay for my horses lately too (and met a neat person in the mean time), I've had lots of deaths, illnesses, back stabbers, I'm unemployed right now and having a hard time landing another job, I'm not buying stuff for Christmas (and don't need to cause that's not what it's all about anyway), can't afford to fix broken things at the house...The list goes on and on. But this morning, I went out with a friend and had a cup of tea and talked about kids, toys, the sunshine, and LIGHTLY on a bothersom thing. It has been a really nice morning. I will embrace that all day. I wish peace and friendship to you.