Hi Sloane,

Thanks! You made excellent points, especially about forgiving without discourse; I've done that. Also, needing them as something as a resource in the future is true. This is just not the time to see them, at Christmas. I had to laugh at the situation with your Dad about your outfit because that happened to me... I was visiting them, didn't bring a posh outfit, so borrowed my mother's suit jacket and looked the part!! The part about seeing the patterns, controlling them as you say, and maintaining our right response to them is excellent; I'm just growing in that area.

That must have been difficult to adapt to a new family scenario and all that goes with that. I was spared that. I agree, our family history is part of our history, but only part.

I appreciate very much your taking the time to help me, and you really did. Hey, we're both in CT!!!! All the best on your journey. Peace, "help"

P.S. I like the 'join and amplify' part. I want to be a peacemaker; don't want any grudges to block that.