I am a single mother of three. When I divorced my kids were 5,4, and almost 3 years old. It was an extremely abusive relationship that ended with women shelters, loosing all my belongings and home, and pressing charges. So no doubt by the end I was disscouraged in men, had no self esteem, and no sense of self. After a while I tried dating a bit. It was hard, akward and again disappointing.

So, I went to some intensive therapy to work on myself, figure out who I am, where I am going, and what I need and want. I worked on rebuilding my life with my kids and right when things were really starting to go good for me, that's when it happened. It happened after I was content with my life, had good self esteem in tact, and knew exactly who I was, and loved who I was, and knew exactly what I wanted. And then he just showed up in my life. We took things pretty slow. We've been together for 6 years and we live apart. We switch off staying at each others homes almost every night. Not ideal for some, but for our situation mostly my finances it works. We are working towards moving in together. We hardly ever fight, except for small arguments. It's a very healthy relationship. He has never been married and does not have children. So it's been a learning curve for us both. He can handle my bipolar even when it comes to hospitalization.

So just an example that there are good men out there who will want to be with you, and be a part of your baby's life, and be able to handle your moods and emotions. It really is just all timing. I beleive that. If had I met my boyfriend sooner I would not have been able to handle the relationship at all.

Just work on yourself, know that you are worthy, know that you are all that you really "need", but know that what you "want" you will have, when you are ready to receive.