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Dec 24, 2011, 06:37 AM
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((((((((avoice))))))))--went through mucho wit me 34 year old daughter...the fights!
We didn't speak for years at a time...most recent was over a year...but she had to move out when she was 18...we could not get along. I was alone with her...I know what you mean about hubby...why don't they stand and present a united front? I know mine was abusing her... that was when I had him "removed"?
Then it was us...she got boyfriends in when I worked all night...ugh...she and her boyfriend beat me up once...wow...ick to remember...Well! I tell ya, I changed the locks on the door....ha ha...told her she was always welcome, but she had to ring bell and speak civily to me...no coising!!! She turned that into a "proud" thing...
stayed out all night in her car...scared me silly! UGGA BUGGA! So she moved out.
Went through mucho...used to call me in the middle of the night to help her with various things.....eh...she's a woman grown now, with a kid of her own...going back to school...doing it all on her own. Marriage is going bad now, just heard from her...
Overjoyed to hear...but, her life is hers.
I like being a Nana...no more playing the "heavy" with either of my kids or grandkids.. I keep my distance...more peaceful that way...and fun...no mess, no emotional drama...ha, after a whole year of silence betwixt us, she called...and sounds like she "needs" me again. I was "obtuse"...listened and praised her for her fortitude...then she invited me to Christmas--ha ha..."What should I buy for you to cook, ma...no one makes Christmas like you do"--oops...no. I so tired of all that. No, eight years of holidays on my own? Quiet? No money to spend...no messes to clean...I just enjoy the time as quiet, comforting for me...in "heavenly peace"!!
I can only say, don't take it. Tell her to speak respectfully, or move out...with dee on this ((((avoice))))--you aren't alone...my daughter still doesn't respect me...
eh, the more ya do for them...the more they want.........live your own life! xo theo
(and whats with you being "drunk"? Dop it!!! needs ya here......sillydilly!)
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