Glad to hear that, Hankster!
I got outside and shoveled and walked to get the cookies- it was so sunny, the little bit of snow we have will probably be gone soon. So I'm alone until our present opening tonight, going to stretch out the Christmas tasks, that should help. And when my mind keeps looping on that old nasty stuff, I'm going to say to myself 'its so wrong for a relative to harm a child'. And try and get back to now.
So even though I don't feel empowered or strong - just a whole lot of yuck- when I think of the letter, I have been trying to turn my mind to it being shredded. She can't get to me or my girl.