I agree with googley- also dealing with PTSD both mine and my girl's. It's not uncommon for parents to have diffiuclties when their child reaches ages they were when significant abuse happened. What I have found personally is that my style of dealing with triggers often clashes with my daugheter's- simply put, I withdraw, she over engages. Getting good support for you both CAN change your cycles of relating. It's a lot of work, AND it's worth it.