Holidays are hard, especially this time of year because there is so much stress on getting everything perfect, just the right gift, the beautiful meal, getting families together, so many expectations. And it is also a time that so much reflection is done on what has been accomplished over the year as well. But you know what? youre a grown up. you can make your own rules. what works best for your mental health. draw the boundaries there. for some of us, the fact that we made it thru the year alive is our greatest accomplishment. if you want to have TV dinners for a christmas meal, hey, thats ok. there has never been a perfect christmas. there wont be one as long as you have all the negativity in your head,thats were youve got to make it ok. not on the outside. so give yourself a break. lighten up. make it fun. hang in there.