Hello. I guess I'm not really looking for any advice, but just for someone to listen since there isn't anyone I can talk to about this.

There is a person I've known for a while and we used to talk all the time. We hung out, had a lot of fun, we were just good friends. Ever since he "fell in love" with this girl though, things just fell apart.

From what he told me, the girl is a liar and a drug addict. She has stolen money from him, called him an asshole, basically just didn't treat him all that nicely. The thing is, he fell for her and thought that somehow he could "save her" and stop her from doing those things. Eventually she was the only thing that was ever on his mind. We used to talk about so many things, but now it just always became about her. He didn't listen to me and if I tried to tell him about my day, it would just go straight back to her and about all the things she did that he didn't agree with. But I thought whatever and I just tried to be there for him.

She told him she loved him but was with someone at the time. She lied to him so many times and it was always upsetting him. As a friend, I hated seeing this. I couldn't tell him who he should or shouldn't be with, that's certainly his choice. But I did mention that I didn't think it was a good idea, that I didn't think he should be treated that way by anyone. A few months ago she pretended she committed suicide and stopped talking to him. And that's when we stopped talking. He told me he didn't have anything to say to me anymore and we stopped talking for a couple of months. During that time he hired a private investigator to find out what happened to this girl, tried to contact all of her friends and family. Eventually he found out she lied to him. But then they did start talking again and she told him she wanted to marry him. This was of course another lie, she was still with her boyfriend. He found out later on that she was leading him on. Then out of nowhere he decides to contact me after these few months, but only to tell me that he's going to see her again and that if she decides to kill him, he'll be fine with it because he'll die in her arms.

Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel as if I'm losing this friendship because of this girl, like he just decided I'm not worth talking to as much as this girl and tossed me aside. And after listening to him and just being there for him, it still didn't matter. This girl was just way too important. She's worth a plane ticket, even a private investigator. And it just hurts me to see him think that she's even worth his life after everything she did. I felt powerless sometimes.

I tried to talk to him and work things out, but he said I'm just insecure and I don't understand because he thinks I've never been in love, but that's not true. I'm not trying to say I'm jealous or that I'd ask him to choose between her or me. I'm sad that he lets himself be treated like this. And I'm frustrated that there's nothing I can do or say and I don't want to lose our friendship over something like this. I just want what's best for him. I can't judge, maybe this girl had some good moments, but I don't think anyone calling him an asshole deserves that much attention from him. But he isn't talking to me again. He just wants this girl. And I don't know what to say anymore.

Well thanks to anyone who has read this. I appreciate you taking the time to listen.