Hi ocdmom, I have been widowed for a number of years and have used unpaid and paid
sites. I would say be very careful of scammers. These are the ones that declare that
they are madly in love with you immediately and want your home email address. I had one hack my email and likely looking for identity theft. They are common on the free sites.

I find on-line sometimes very cold; a lot of the guys are just looking to score, and have been on there for years and years. On the other hand, I have met a few fellows that are pretty decent. Good luck to you; but be very careful.