I think you are tolerating alot of abuse,something that is well beyond what friends tolerate.I think you seem quite stable in your personality from the way you have chosen to view your situation and how you have expressed it.I think you need to really think about what you want from a friend.What sort of friend are you? A pretty thoughtful and intelligent one I presume.Please consider your personal value,and how you treat others,to determine just how much really is reasonable to tolerate from this individual.I mean ....do unto others...you know?My real concern is that if he has chosen these behaviors once....you will likely see a pattern,and with his withdrawal,and then utilization of your guidance ....when it is convenient....as well as the romeo juliet bit...I would consider him as being unpredictable,unstable,and inconsiderate.Bottom line,you are a much better friend than he has learned to be? idk....take my words with a grain of salt...as I too,am highly dysfunctional.Best wishes to you with your concerns,and for the holidays! WO.olf