Thank you for your thoughts sandworm. I don't want to just abandon him because he was a good friend to me. He is someone I care about and I've told him this. But in the end I think you are right that this is poisoning my health and is making me extremely unhappy.

wolfsong, this is actually not the first time something like this has happened, but it is the first time he has gone extremely far. So this could be a pattern.