My neighbour(age 26) admitted that he likes me through a text msg the other night, although I(25 years old) have never verbaly or physically showed him that I like him too, but i am very shy around him. He asked me whether I am seeing anyone and I asked him the same question he said he wasnt, I said that I wasnt either. He told me that the only thing that is worrying him is the fact that we are neighbours and he doesnt want to make things awkward between the two families (His and mine) if things do not work out between the two of us. He said he will call back to discuss things but he never did. He saw me the other day waiting for the bus offered me a lift as he usually does (sometimes I accept and other times I dont) but this time I did not accept his offer because he didnt call back. On Christmas day, I send a forward msg to all my contacts wishing them a Merry Christmas, he replied back saying: " How nice. The best message I have received so far. Same to you sweetheart." I didnt reply back. On that same day in the afternoon I was going out, and I saw him with another girl infront of his house that I had seen him with a week before. As soon as he saw me he looked pale and as if someone had showered him with hot water. I guess he wasnt expecting to see me. Later on his mother comes knocking on our door to give us some Christmas sweets. She was acting awkward and nervous and she told us she cant stay for long coz she is tired and they have "friends" over. Which made me wonder, if you are tired and you have people over at your house why go through the effort of coming over to give us sweets when clearly you can come any other day. I mean we only live next door and it all seemed a little bit too fishy for me. Plus, why are you telling us you have people over when we didnt ask you. It also seemed to me that she was trying to sus my reaction out and to justify what I had seen earlier. We both come from the same culture and we both are family oriented people. In my culture marriage is a very important part of our lives. He had told me before that he built the house they are living in now ( next door to my house) because he wants his kids to live in a friendly neighbour hood. So he clearly is thinking ahead, he gets nervous when he is around me... Im a good looking girl and he is a handsome guy. But, who is this girl I see him with? Why does he send me flirty msgs back? Why does he only offer me lifts? why doesnt he call or initiate contact besides asking me for lifts? And, how could I find out about this girl without making it obvious that I care about knowing or that would not make me feel stupid or that I like him. I do not want to show him all these feelings and emotions because if I do and his reaction was blunt or arrogant I dont want to get my feelings hurt. I'm a sensitive girl and I dont want to feel like im clingy or want to know who that girl is especially since he didnt identify what I mean to him yet.