Hi ivalice. I'm sorry you are in this situation.

Reading your description of your friends behavior reminds me of a friend of my husbands. This guy (I'll call him Joe) chooses women that come with crazy amounts of drama time after time. He'll meet a nice smart beautiful girl...and if she's too normal he'll find any excuse to stop seeing her. Just in the last year he's 'dated' 2 herion junkies, a married mother of 3, a compulsive liar/theif and a drug dealer.

I think Joe is addicted to this type of relationship, but in the 15 years that I've known him I have never been able to understand why. i couldn't begin to count the times he's come over to visit and just unloaded all this drama and pain from his current relationship. I like this person, and feel bad that he's upset...but at the same time I just get so frustrated.

So my advice is to try and move on and put your happiness first, especially since you said this is not the first time something like this has happened. He's so wrapped up in her problems that nothing else is in his thoughts. Why would you want your only conversations with him to be about her and what he'd do for her and how he feels about her? I know you said he has been a good friend in the past and it is possible that he may be a good friend again in the future if he's able to give up on this girl...but I'd be concerned that he'd be drawn to this type again.