If I am able to focus on how he responds to me in T, how he lets me know he is thinking about me before or outside of T, the tenderness and understanding he shows to me, then I feel it's okay for me to be there.

When he reminds me of my own goals that I've written down, and how I want to be done in a year from last spring, then not so much. I know intellectually that he's trying to help me do what I want to do, but my emotionally stagnant self accuses him of trying to push me out the door.

Anne