Patricia,

Thank you so much for sharing. I understand how you feel. Though I said im not sure yet whether i fully beleive I have an alchohol problem, I can still understand why you feel the way you do.

When i get backed into corners I tend to go overboard as well. My current biggest issue is abandonment which you might not think is the same thing - but let me explain.

When I fear someone is going to go away, I CLING desperately to them. I get extremely upset if I cant see them or they cant see me. I will go to just about any lengths to hold on to them even doing things which are destructive.

SO you see, whether it be alchohol or something else, this shows that there are tons of us struggling with the same basic issues.

and i think that in itself can help us be strong.