I know what you're going through. My family was basically the same way.

Changing how your family think and acts around you is very difficult. Some people just refuse to change.

I don't know how old you are, but I would look forward to a independent life of your own. With your own friends, job, and hobbies. That way you can leave your family a bit behind, become an independent adult.

Trying to fix your family for the rest of your life just makes you totally crazy and frustrated. Better move on with your life. And occasionally give them a visit. Finding the right friends for you is much more satisfying then constantly arguing or trying to fix your family.