In another thread somewhere, I mentioned that I have memory gaps for traumatic events in my life. I was there, and I remember partially, but important details are missing, and others must fill in the blank spaces for me.

I've had this used against me. I've been accused of things I didn't do, and then the fact that I don't remember is held up as just one of those memory gaps. "Oh, you don't remember--well, of course you wouldn't. It embarrassed you, so you blocked it out."

Bear in mind, it is horrific, traumatic events in my life that I don't remember completely, not some random stupid thing I did. Even those traumatic events, I do remember partially, enough to know it's the truth. If nothing else, I'll remember some fallout from the event, and know that there is evidence that the thing did happen. If I have no memory at all for something, I see no evidence of it, and it was silly rather than terrifying, I'd say it's a safe bet that it never happened. I don't block things out because I find them embarrassing. I remember plenty of stupid embarrassing things I've done. We all do things like that. The important thing is, my husband, who has been with me for almost 5 years and married to me for just over 3, has never seen me do anything bizarre that I later denied. It's just not part of my behavior.

Usually, those false accusations are later passed off as a "joke."

Why do people "joke" like that and think it's funny?