One thing my therapist taught me was the difference between like and love. I loved my stepmother but she was very harsh, controlling, and could be abusive, especially when I was growing up.

My therapist asked me who I liked and I instantly replied, "My husband!" She asked, "Why? Give me three reasons." and I said, "He's, warm, fun, and friendly." She then had me apply those three attributes to the people I love. . . I discovered that at the time I only liked one of my three brothers, definitely didn't like my stepmother, LOL, and it was a wonderful tool for analyzing other relationships as they developed; bosses, friends, acquaintances who I was thinking of working on friendships with, etc.

You are in charge of your own life; don't worry about what other people are doing, decide what you want to do and go from there?