Hi everyone. Before I start, allow me to make one thing clear: I don’t “prefer the company of men” nor do I think men are better than women. I think women are great. Believe me, those deluded female misogynists with “special snowflake” syndrome annoy the **** out of me. Anyway, here is my situation:

I have always lacked social skills and have always had difficulty making friends in general. Despite this, the few close friendships I have formed in my life have always been with men. I have never felt close to another woman. I just feel more comfortable with men for some reason and I don’t know why. It always seems like the women I meet resent me and so I have difficulty connecting with them. For example, my female house mate is always needlessly haranguing me and trying to make me look stupid, but she doesn’t do this with the man that we live with. On the other hand, the man is perfectly civil to me.

I’m in college now doing a male-dominated course so that‘s not helping things. I hang around with a few guys and feel quite comfortable with them. There is one other woman in our group and even though I always make an effort with her, I have failed to really “connect“ with her like I have with the men. I just don’t get that “spark”.

There is another woman in my college who I feel a lot of unwarranted hatred from, but I see her with other women having a laugh and generally being affectionate. This makes me think it’s my problem. Maybe I subconsciously feel threatened by other women, and that affects my intentionality towards them? I don’t know, I would like to think I have more self-respect than that.

It’s not that I think women are “*****y” or too dramatic. I just feel a lot of resentment from them for some reason, like they think I’m weird/odd. I don’t think I give them reason to be jealous either… I am an attractive woman but I could do with losing a few pounds, I am quite intelligent and I can be funny. That’s about it.

I hate gender stereotypes but I feel I will have to invoke some here... From society's perspective, I would be considered quite "male-identified" in my interests (philosophy, politics, science, computers). I have also been told that my mannerisms and general demeanor are more male than female. I have "male traits" such as being individualistic/solitary, strong/silent, rational, assertive, nerdy. (Eurgh, I hate myself for writing that! I definitely do not endorse these gender roles). But yes, I have always been like this ever since I was a child. Could this be relevent?

A while ago I read that it’s easier for women to get along with men because they just appreciate the female attention anyway, so they welcome women, they make allowances for them and you have to do less “work” to establish a friendship. Could this be a factor? I don’t know. Would appreciate some perspectives or people with similar experience.