Hang in there Irishsj. Children end up in foster care for many reasons not just bad parenting.

when a child has behavior problems its not always the parents fault. I had a caseworker that tried to blame all my childs problems on me and now it turns our he has amental disorder that is a chemical imballance of the brain problem. Yes IU did not do everything perfect and no parent is a perfect one but no parenting skills good or bad can prevent or fix the kids of violent behaviors that my child has. I could have been the best parent on earth and my child would still be diagnosed with what he has been diagnosed as. The best parenting in the world would not have made him not think his dead father told him to hide my keys in a hole in the ground, or other hallucinations and so on that they are taking care of in residential treatment and therapeutic foster care. When he was home with me at age 9 he was stronger than me and beating me up. I was a walking bruise from head to toes literally. Hes now a teen ager and at least as tall as I am and double the weight when he was 9. From what I know now from reading his therapy reports that my lawyer recieves its a very good chance that if he was home in one of his rages or hallucinations and so on he could and probably would accidentally or meaning to kill me or our family cat. No parenting in the world can change that. even with a therapeutic foster home he cannot be maintained very long without inpatient care of the residential treatment centers.

Don't take all the blame on yourself no matter who tells you, that you are to blame because you are not. children like ours just need the extra mental health care that you and I can't provide for 24/7.