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Originally Posted by kaliope
Just to let you know though, if youre in the US, the code of ethics does not allow for relationships outside of therapy for two years i think it is. so be armed with that knowledge in your decision to talk with her about this.
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Kaliope, the two year rule is for sexual relationships. I've done my homework.
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Originally Posted by 3rdTimesTheCharm
There are two issues here, it seems to me:
1) That you feel confused by what your T said/did last week and it made you feel that maybe she would be willing to be friends with you. One way you could tippy toe into this conversation would be to raise your confusion.
2) I just think you explained really well what you were looking for from her, in a very nondemanding, mature way. However, I really wonder about the timing of saying this NOW (particularly since you also have a trauma agenda for this session as well, as you said in another thread). Have you thought about how it might derail your therapy if she answers in a way that is other than "yes"? And why you want to raise this issue now, as opposed to near the end of therapy? What are you hoping that her answer to this question will do for you?
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The timing has to do with my OCD; I'd rather know now than get my hopes up for however long I'm in therapy. It will not derail my therapy because I am prepared for whatever answer she gives me. I just want to know "is it a possibility or not?" The answer will simply reduce anxiety. I will accept the relationship for what it is, not for what it might or might not be, for whatever it's worth. I've put a great deal of thought into this!