I can relate to what both of you are saying! I too have felt the sting and subsequent reluctance towards female friendships. All because of how a so called friend treated me back when I was at community college. She was poor, had a tough home life and she got married young and she was obviously pregnant looked about 6 months along and she was in denial but kept saying she didnt want any kids. The day after 9/11 2001 she we nuts on me telling me I`m a spoiled brat, my parents pay for all my stuff and I was vain (because I use to put make up on when we sat together in class in high school). she was clearly jealous probably had a nervous breakdown and who knows what else. I wouldnt make friends with another female for 4 years after that. slowly i worked on being friends with other females and realized not all of them are bad or crazy like my former friend. and previous to our fall out she was cool and easy going and one of the nicest people I knew in high school and trust me there were no nice people in high school all jerks. so my point is I had a horrible experience with her and furthermore I`ve always had bad experiences with females friends even some male friends but now I know i shouldnt let bad people deter me from reaching out and having female friends sometimes you just NEED another woman`s shoulder to cry on or just to talk about girl stuff. the female friendship is a work in progress for me even one of my current friends makes a little trouble about the fact that I am thin and she is not and made a few comments about my boyfriend calling when we go places. jealous? Probablyz but I`m working on not caring! I`m the last person anyone needs to be jealous of. somethings we can ignore you know. but if she ever disrespects me I`ll tell her and she`s gone. my advice to you is pick out some women who seem nice and say hello and try to chatt with ones in your dorm or library or cafeteria. good luck. Ps sometime people we think are not nice end up being the coolest people.