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Originally Posted by bluemountains
Hi Chopin,
In reading about your relationship with your t in past posts, it seems that you have already developed a friendship, or at least it appears so in your interactions during your sessions. My impression is that you have been a great support for her as she has gone through her treatments, meaning that your therapy went in a different direction than most of us experience. Also, you have been able to explore your faith with her. This is special, too.
You have said that you are prepared for her answer, and if this is the case, I think you should ask the question. After all, since your last session, this has been on your mind, and you would share any other thoughts with her. Personally, my OCD does the same to me, and I would have to ask.
Hugs,
Bluemountains
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This therapy relationship has been very different from previous relationships in the way of reciprocity. However, I am unaware of her methodology with other clients; so maybe she's that way with everyone. I won't know until I ask.
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Originally Posted by beautiful.mess
I would have to ask too. Actually, did you read the thread I started several days ago, where I couldn't take it anymore and had to ask my T a question about our relationship? I think the similarity here is the NEED to know. Like, NOW. I have ocd too, and I tried and tried to put off the question, but I got to the point where I didn't care what the answer was, or if I made myself appear like an idiot. That nagging feeling kept picking at me and picking at me. So I asked. Through the course of the conversation, he ended up answering another question I hadn't asked about (about post therapy friendship) and the answer, in not so many words, was that there will be none. For the most part, I'm OK with that.....well, for now I am. I'm a little bummed too, because yeah, he would be a great friend for me, esp since I have not ever had the privelege of having a man for a friend with no "expectations", mutual trust and respect, etc. But it's not going to happen. Even so, like you, I'm glad he answered me now (even though I didn't ask him LOL) and got it out of the way so I don't have to agonize over it in the future. *sigh*
So, as long as your REALLY sure you can handle her "no" (if there is one) I would go ahead and ask. I totally hear you on the NEED to know though. You have the right to ask your T anything you want; you certainly articulate yourself well enough. Good luck!  |
Yes, I need to know NOW. I'd like to know
rightnow, but I must wait until Wednesday.
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Originally Posted by crazycanbegood
Possibly an unwelcome comment: I just think that at this moment you are setting yourself up for hurt and disappointment. Focus on healing yourself first.
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ANY comments are always welcome!
I think I will handle her answer fine, but I may have some disappointment. My OCD is kicking; I need to know the boundary
now. I cannot focus on the healing until I know the answer. I can want something with all my heart, but that doesn't mean I'm entitled to get it. My faith helps me with that and I'm trying to be realistic about it! Basically, no matter what, I know I will be okay.
I've been in therapy twice, I have a B.A. in psychology, and I teach my employees about therapeutic relationships and I have never been in, studied about, or taught about a therapeutic relationship quite like the one I have with my T. I like it the way it is now, but it may not be appropriate for me and if it isn't in my best interest, I need to know that now rather than in the future!