My parents divorced when I was 11/12.

It's the roughest thing that I have ever gone through, yet I realize that things are much better now that they are divorced and living their own separate lives. Your children may not be able to recognize the fact that their lives are better that you and your ex are separated, but believe me- one day they will.

It is much better to grow up in two separate, semi-sane households than one insane household- trust me.