Hey everyone. Thanks in advance for any comments or advice.

As the title suggests, I have uncontrollable feelings of annoyance, bordering on anger, whenever my parents ask me about my life (ex. school, friends, etc.) These feelings of annoyance are overwhelming to the point where I try at all costs to avoid answering the question even when there is a very simple respons. For example, if they ask me about who will be attending a gathering that I'm going to, I'll get really annoyed and simply say, "people you don't know" or "don't worry about it" when I could easily list off five names. Obviously, this results in further interrogation, which angers me even more. Arguments often ensue and physically, I get very tense.

This all started happening in my teens, but I am now 23 and I thought I would have grown out of this stage ages ago. I can plainly see how ridiculous my actions are and how it is negatively affecting the relationship with my parents. They frequently say I am trying to kick them out of my life, which really isn't my intention. I just cannot seem to overcome these feelings when talking to them. I often feel guilty about being a bad daughter.

I think this issue may stem from over-protective parenting and the feeling that they are trying to pry into my life. This isn't really an issue now that I am older, but I guess the emotions still remain. I also don't have a very close relationship with them in general. We don't express affection verbally or physically (no "i love yous", hugs, contact of any sort). I feel extremely awkward when my mom tries to hug me goodbye. I've never talked to either parent about anything really deep.

I just want to have a normal, functioning relationship with my parents. It seems so natural for everyone else, but I can't seem to even be civil with them. I've tried to bite my tongue and just respond normally, but the annoyance just builds up in my head and I get physically irritable, so it doesn't last very long. Does anyone have any suggestions about what I can do to overcome this?