I can understand what Hankster is saying. Personally, though, I would ask the question just because I had to. Your t can handle this in a professional way, in which case you will explore why there is this need for friendship, or your t can let you know that you will indeed be friends and identify what that friendship will mean.
Your husband loves you and wants to protect you. He may be giving you the right advice, but I still believe that this need for your t's friendship in an issue that must be dealt with in therapy. If she is, indeed, the person you have described here, I think that she will handle this in a way that will allow you to grow.
When I am not settled with an issue, which obviously I am not judging from the amount of threads I have started lately, I find that I am super OCD and can't focus on much else until I feel settled.
Good luck!
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