Larry Hoover said--

It's not as if I am physically caring for either of them

The arrangements themselves were not onerous. No, it was the "doing it for him" part.

Grieving the childhood I never got, while giving them a dignified end. D'ya think? And I thought the world ought to be fair.

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Larry,

I cannot even begin to tell you how much your words describe exactly where I am standing. (And my mother is still very self-sufficient at 77.)

Every bit of energy I have is used on trying to put one foot in front of the other and walk towards my mother and not away from her.

Petunia