Hi beauflow--welcome to the fallibility of the human race. We don't always agree, we make assumptions, we jump to conclusions, we "do as we say and not as we do." It's not just you or me, it's everybody. And anyone who says they don't--well, they REALLY need to get their head examined.

I try really hard and take a lot of time to formulate a post here that I think relates to the OP (and from what I've seen from your posts, you do too), but I know at some point someone is going to jump my case just because they don't see it the way I do. We all have opinions, values, and beliefs that we "know" are right, and they sometimes collide.

I was about to write something about how situations drive thoughts which drive emotions, but it sounded preachy. And yeah, when you're in the thick of the feeling it is hard to stop and think, how the heck did *that* come about? But you're a work in progress and so is everybody else on this site. I sure want to hear about how you feel and what you think, because even though I've been in therapy for many years I still don't have all the answers and I can appreciate someone else's point of view. I can't remember who said it, but "we're all bozos on this bus."

I hope you have time to de-stress and post again soon.